Instead of living in that cloud, I’ve chosen to live in the silver lining, and it’s exciting to feel the change in the air. Loss creates space — for new people, new ideas, new approaches and new horizons.
She died on Friday, May 13, 2016. She didn’t want to die. She fought hard to the bitter end. She had patients she was supposed to see that day. She was a family therapist. She was 88.
Now, I see how blind I was. Now, I struggle with letting go of everything I thought was true. All the dreams I had for my kids, all the expectations, and any image of who they were to become.
It’s easy to be apathetic, throw ones hands up and say, why bother? I’ve often felt such exasperation. But we must fight to support some semblance of a vision we believe will raise the tide and with it all boats. In the words of Hamilton, when challenging Aaron Burr on his lack of convictions, “If you don’t take a stand what will you fall for?” A double entendre if ever there was one.
As I see it, the more questions we bring to our health care providers, the more engaged we are in our care, and studies have shown that an involved patient is a healthier patient, and a healthier patient lowers healthcare costs overall.